《查泰萊夫人的情人》這本書給我最大的印象是關(guān)于女人對男人的影響有多大。

The book <Lady Chatterley's Lover> give me the most impression about how great a woman could impact a man.

因?yàn)閺难虏糠秩堪c瘓，克里夫在感情上對他的妻子康妮有著很大的依賴。只有跟她在一起，并且他的私生活都由她來伺候，他才能有安全感，并覺得生活是完整的，但是他不能給她性愛，只能有精神戀愛。所以克里夫有一種負(fù)罪感，害怕有一天她會離開他，他對她很是包容，甚至有點(diǎn)屈辱和卑下。為了尋找成功證明自己男人的能力，他開始寫小說，這也確實(shí)給他帶來了一些名氣，但他仍沒有感覺到強(qiáng)烈的滿足感。事實(shí)上，他寫的東西都很空洞，可以看出他仍然沒有找到作為一個大男人的生命的意義。

Because of paralyze from the waist down of his body, Clifford's emotion depended much on his wife Connie.Only staying with her and having his private life served by her, he could feel the security and integrity of his life, but he couldn't supply lust love to her,between them there is only spiritual love left.So Clifford felt guilty about that ,and for feal of her  leaving  him one day, he behaved very bearable about her ,even humuliated and inferior to her.In order to search for  some success  to prove his capability as a man ,he began to write novles, which certainly brought famous fame to him, but he still not felt the strongest satisfaction. what he wrote , in fact ,was very empty, which shew that he still really hadn't found the real meaning of his life as to how to be a big man.

當(dāng)波太太來伺候他以后，克里夫的精神生活發(fā)生了巨大的改變。波太太向他描述村里的勝過，并用崇敬的態(tài)度仰視他，并且在他們玩紙牌游戲時，她表現(xiàn)的很不擅長，就像一個小女孩，這些給克里夫的男子漢氣概帶來了巨大的鼓舞，他很快就下大決心改善他擁有的煤礦的挖煤技術(shù)，將事業(yè)從一個憂郁的作家轉(zhuǎn)向了充滿活力的企業(yè)家，每天他都可以賺好多錢。并且他開始凌駕于一切之上，感覺像從冬眠中蘇醒了，恢復(fù)了生命力。

After Mrs Bolton came to serve him, Clifford had the extreme change in his spirit life. She despicted the life in the villiage with quite respectful attitudes looking up to him, and when they played card games, she behaves so poor skilled,just like a little girl, both of which gave him immense boost of his muscularity, he soon made big determination to improve the technique of digging coal in his mine, transverted his career from a dismay writer to an entreprenuer with enough viritality, everyday he could earn lots of money. And he also becomes so superior to everything, seeming  awakening from the dormant, and coming back to life.

從這里我可以看出女人對于自己老公不同態(tài)度的不同作用。不管你自己多么完美，如果你表現(xiàn)的很強(qiáng)勢的凌駕于他之上，他就會蔫了，至少他作為成功男人的能力將會打折。但是如果你崇拜他，給他心里灌輸自信和自尊，讓他感到受到尊敬和很高的期望，他將會表現(xiàn)出超能量來實(shí)現(xiàn)他的人生目標(biāo)。這就是為什么說女人是男人的導(dǎo)師。

So I can tell the different  attitudes towards your  husband could lead to quite different results to him.No matter how perfect yourself are, if you behaves riding upon him mightily, he will whither, at least his ability as a successful man will be decounted.But if you adore him , importing self-confidence and self-esteem into his heart, making him feeling respected and highly expected, he will exhibt his extre energy to achieve his goal of life.That's why a woman is the guider of the man.